While I was at the beach this weekend, I interviewed for a job as a prosecutor. Part of me REALLY wants it and part of me doesn’t have the energy to even think of moving. Last night I was thinking of how many times I’ve moved in the last 9 years. I moved to the east coast, from the east coast, to my first job as a prosecutor, from my first job as a prosecutor, to this job and now I may be looking at yet another move. I’m getting to an age where I really want to get somewhere and set down some roots. I want to stay in the same location and in the same house for 10 years. I want to really get to know my community – enough to love it and hate it at the same time. I want to be involved enough in a community to know what the current issues and needs are. I want to be invested enough in that community to step in and try to help meet those needs. I began to despair of ever having that kind of community, but then I realized my travels have given me a community of my own. Mine may be spread out, but it is no less valuable. For example:
I have Ann. She’s far enough away that we’ve not seen each other in 2 years, but we talk almost every day. We started out so very opposite from each other and it is only by the grace of God that our friendship grew, strengthened and lasted. She’s the one I call when I’m so distraught or overwrought that I cannot make my own decisions. I trust her to make them for me in those moments.
I have J.H. He’s almost 9 hours away which for a girl who hates to drive might as well be across the ocean. He’s been going through a difficult time of his own. We talk weekly. He’s got a lovely wife and family who embraced our friendship which grew from hours spent in a patrol car together tracking down witnesses in the bad parts of town. He’s closer to me than a brother ever could be. He’s even willing to drive hours and hours and hours to help me move from here to there if I get the job on the beach.
I have S.H. - an old girlfriend from high school. We weren’t close in high school, though we liked each other. Adulthood brought us together. We are in different phases of life, but still are so connected. She’s about 6 hours away and we see each other as often as possible which is never often enough. When there is a crisis we have each other on speed dial. Only we can handle each other when our emotions go on overdrive.
I have so many others including my mom, sister, brother-in-law, and his family. None of them live near me, but on holidays you will not find me with anyone else.
These are the people who are there for me and for whom I am there. These are the ones I laugh with and sometimes fight with. These are the ones I run to in crisis and run to support in their times of crisis. These are the people I love and in whose love I trust. These are my family – my community. After all, whoever said community had to live within the same city?